Swimming Update

It’s been a whole 6 months since Leo started swimming lessons with Swimabout in Cheadle Hulme, so I thought I’d give you an update on how he’s doing! You can read about what happened when we first took him here.

…. So fast forward to this weekend and we’ve just started Leo on his third term and he is doing absolutely fabulous and has recently received his Duckling 2 Award!

Leo has gone from being extremely clingy in the pool to absolutely loving the water. He’s been having his lessons and for the past few months we’ve also been taking him more as a family with Asher coming too – I’m hoping that Asher will want to copy Leo as they get older and he won’t be as clingy in the water.

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Swimabout have the children use Swimfin and we had never seen these before we started lessons there but we think they are amazing and the best thing is that Leo actually likes wearing it.

I had never seen children being taught with anything other than armbands so watching the children progress using these fins has been an eye opener but we would definitely recommend them for helping children learn to swim.

The staff at Swimabout are absolutely fabulous with the children and you can see the confidence growing in the children every week as they splash around and laugh in the pool. It’s very much all about making the learning fun at this stage for them and it’s brilliant.

For us as parents, it’s fabulous to see that Leo has gained the confidence to be in the pool with someone other than Dan and I and to see that he genuinely enjoys it.

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Swimfin kindly sent Leo the perfect bag for swimming which fits all his swimming gear in, including his swimfin and when you put it in the special pocket, they look like a shark! Also Fully waterproof which makes it fantastic.

And how cute does he look in this video running to his swimming lesson with it on his back πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•.

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In the photo below, Leo’s also showing you Swinfin’s Funky Floaties which are fantastic for encouraging your children to swim further in the pool … we get Leo to chase them and then just move further away from him without him realising, they’re really helping him to increase his distance and build his stamina in the pool and they taught him the words, turtle, dolphin and crab! πŸ’™

Seriously though learning to swim should be so fun and it’s so important to ensure their safety in and near water in every day life and especially when on holiday too and as you can imagine, Dan and I are overly cautious with safety issues after losing Millie.

When we first started taking Leo to swimabout , I genuinely wasn’t sure that we were going to be able to handle it, handing Leo to someone else to look after in a pool…six months down the line and sat on the sidelines with our littlest one Asher, we couldn’t be prouder of our little Leo for taking part and enjoying himself and we are quite proud of ourselves for allowing him. The staff have been brilliant with us and we would highly recommend Swimabout if you are local to Stockport and want to see your child gain the fabulous confidence that our Leo has and we cannot wait for Asher to be old enough to start classes there too. xxx

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I wonder what ?

There are many things that I struggle with dealing with the loss of my children, in particular Millie. With the baby that we miscarried, I don’t seem to have the same struggles, I have different struggles, like never knowing what they would even look like when they were born or seeing what colour eyes they would have.

I think maybe this is because we didn’t know whether the baby was a boy or girl. We gave the baby a unisex name because of this and it still breaks my heart when I think of our loss with this baby. Don’t get me wrong, I know that all types of baby/pregnancy loss are horrendous because you start to plan your baby’s future as soon as you see that positive line but for me with Millie it’s different because she had been with us here for 9 months and one of the biggest struggles that I have is not seeing her grow up.

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Now I know that seems a really obvious thing to say but it’s the little things that many people take for granted when you have children.

Would she like having plaits in her hair?

What would her voice sound like?

How tall would she be?

Would she like wearing dresses or be a total Tomboy living in jeans and getting covered on dirt like I was?

Would she have her daddy’s smile or would she sleep the same way he does?

Would she like going to the football with him at the weekends?

This seems to hit me the most when it’s around her birthday and not long after her birthday this year, my mum passed me some photos.

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Many of them made me laugh, photos of her on her wedding day, of my Auntie (yes, you Auntie Linz πŸ˜€) as a very young girl but then I came across some of me when I was small. What was odd though, is that these random photos that my mum had brought over were of me when I was 6, the same age that Millie would have been this year.

My mum hadn’t even looked on the back of the photos and seen the age, she’d just picked a few up to show me …

Strange isn’t it that this is the one I saw?

Do your children look like you or have the same mannerisms? I would love to know what you have in common, it’s such a beautiful thing that our children look like us and often act like us.

If like us, you have angels, what is it that you imagine them to be like?

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We survived!

We survived, we survived … day 1 of home life with daddy at work!

I’ve been worried about today for a few weeks, wondering how I was going to cope once Dan went back to work, but it’s now 8pm and everything is calm πŸ˜€… hasn’t been like that all day though πŸ€ͺ.

Follow my blog on facebook I did manage to get a 30 second shower this morning before Asher’s vocals nearly burst the sound barrier! Of course, he didn’t actually want anything, just a cuddle and obviously this was fine, even if I was cuddling him trying not to get him wet with a half soaked towel. I got him settled (tried him in his actual big cot and he seemed to like looking at the trees outside), walked back to the bathroom following my wet footprints that I had left behind rushing to Asher earlier. I didn’t get chance to get back in the shower and wash my hair, but luckily my wonderful hairdressers convinced me many moons ago that washing my hair every day wasn’t good for it, so I’m going with that now πŸ˜€ (quite a mighty feat for someone who has washed her hair EVERY day for the past 20 years pretty much!)

Decided last night that we were going to get up and go for a walk this morning to get some fresh air and we did eventually manage this, once I had worked out how to put the rain cover on the pram, as I hadn’t used it on this part of the pram before! Once I’d worked this out and had Asher in the pram, I unlocked the door and Asher started to fill his nappy – waited until he’d finished, ran him upstairs to change his nappy and attempted the walk.

Fast forward through the walk (which was actually quite easy and good for my head space), it was dinner time! Leo’s currently addicted to Jam and Cheese sandwiches, not together I might add (although I may actually try that tomorrow as he keeps taking one bite of the cheese one and once bite of the jam one and chewing them together), who knew that would be tasty? I’m so not tempted to try this myself.

I have literally stepped on a thousand (okay, that may be a slight exaggeration there but it was pretty close) of wooden puzzles pieces, which Leo had taken out of a pile that was all ready to put in the loft for when Asher is a bit older as Leo has outgrown them but of course because we were putting them away, he wanted to play with them! Go figure ?!?!

Follow me on Instagram, click here I honestly think Asher did his best today to beat his nappy changing record as I seem to have gone through twice as many as we have all weekend and we have had at least one major explosion/full clothing change and wet wipe bath today, (I’m surprised that it wasn’t more to be honest).

Leo thoroughly enjoyed playing on Asher’s play mat today, he is way too big for it but he was enjoying it. The play mat involved our only real disaster today … Leo managed to kick my cup (yes I said cup, lots of people tell me that I’m odd for drinking pop out of a cup and not a glass) over and yes it was totally full of pop and we had a little lake appearing over the living room carpet – cue Leo bursting into tears because a) he was upset that he had knocked it over when I had said be careful and I think he thought he was in trouble and b) he was now covered in pop – Leo’s only change of the day! As this was happening of course Asher filled his nappy again and during my attempt at changing Asher and Leo running around the living room half naked, someone knocked on the door!

There wasn’t a chance that I was going to make it to the door, not without showing both my children’s backsides to whom ever it was! Two naked bums, knocking continuing at the door, two rather loud children – one laughing, one screaming and my absolute nutter of a dog running around barking like crazy at our visitor and me stood here laughing in the middle of it all πŸ˜‚! I told Dan when he got home after this story that we need to invest in a RING doorbell so I can see through a camera who it is and tell whoever it is to leave whatever they are delivering or tell me whatever they want want whilst talking through the doorbell to me as there was no chance that I was answering that door today; whoever it was so knew I was in, so I apologise if you are reading this πŸ˜‚, I was not intentionally ignoring you.

In between all this, I was attempting to express milk! I’m express feeding with Asher. I did the same with Millie and Leo for different reasons. Millie never latched properly and it became much easier for me to express and I also liked the fact that Dan could feed her to (and do a night feed πŸ˜€) and with Leo, after what had happened with Millie, I wasn’t sleeping much after I had him due to stress and worry and I made the decision that I was expressing right from the beginning and that was that.

I expressed with Millie until about 16 weeks (even through Mastitis , ouch) and Leo until about 11/12 weeks. I’ll know when I’m ready to stop again with Asher.

Anyway, attempting to express today with Asher and little toddler man has been very interesting. I really struggled getting the time to do it today because every time I tried, one of the boys needed/wanted something so I had to stop! Dan came in from work about 4 hours after my last attempt at a longer expressing session and I had text him not long before saying I was in pain and it turned out I couldn’t wait much longer. Luckily, when I do express I get a lot and quickly, so I have been able to do it in the multiple 5/10 minute sessions that I’ve managed to get in earlier in the day when things were calmer.

Dan walked in from work to see Leo playing with his bricks still on the floor and me sat on the sofa with Asher asleep and snoring on my left shoulder and my boob out expressing milk out from my right! He walked in, burst out laughing and said “multi tasking” at its best, pretended to take a photo and took Asher from me then I could finish up easier! Honestly, what he saw was literally the story of my day πŸ˜€!

As you can see in the photo below at the end of the day, Leo was still smiling, Asher was happy in his bouncer and the living room was in absolute chaos and I realised that I hadn’t even been for a wee all day as I was too distracted πŸ™ˆ… But … I did manage to get a load of washing and drying done (I sacked the ironing off though – I definitely did not have time for that)!

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I am totally glad that last night, I had the genius idea of cooking a chilli up for the next few days to put in the fridge – I’m off to eat it now.

Bring on Day 2! 😘

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We got his hair cut … finally

Well Leo, with the help of a very lovely young man at Famous Henry’s on Turves Road in Cheadle Hulme, today we managed to get your hair cut πŸ™ˆ.

Up until about 5 or 6 months ago, Leo didn’t mind this but recently he just won’t let anyone go near it and it has driven me mad. We’ve tried various places but nothing seemed to work, I didn’t know what we were going to do.

So, I called the Barbers and explained that I had a toddler who was really struggling every time we tried to get it done and they said, “bring him down and we’ll see what we can do” I said, we’d pop in during early evening as I had to get home from work and Dan and I would take Leo down together as it’s a 2 man/woman job and with myself being 8 months pregnant, there is no way that I could handle him if he tried to escape from us!

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We headed on down there expecting the worse, a huge tantrum, screaming and the tears … what we didn’t expect was some extremely lovely barbers who talked to him, calmed him down and worked with us parents to make this as best of an experience as we all could.

We did have the tears, don’t get me wrong … and they were proper tears whilst holding daddy’s hand, the barber talking to him and mummy playing with toys in front of him attempting to get him looking straight ahead. Those tears, are totally heartbreaking!

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But between all three of us and discovering that it’s the noises of the clippers in the shop that he didn’t like …. we managed to get a smile through the tears and a gorgeous little haircut …

Don’t give up mummies and daddies if you’re struggling with the haircuts … you’ll get there, we have πŸ˜€

Thank you Famous Henrys xxx

Update: The barber’s name is Warren πŸ˜€

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It doesn’t go away.

The schools are back again this week and so are all the first day at school, moving up a year, first day at secondary school etc photos on social

media and they are all so lovely and I genuinely do love seeing them but I only take a fleeting look as otherwise the tears will begin to fall.

Last year Millie should have started primary school. We know where she would have gone, we know she would have thrived there … except she never took her first step through the door.

I stupidly thought it wouldn’t hurt this year, it does though. It’s never going to go away. The what ifs, the lost school plays, the blank pages of her life. It’s so painful to handle.

And then I had the miscarriage. Am I going to feel the same when that baby should have started school, moved up a year, gone to college? I’m guessing so. The miscarriage wasn’t just something that goes away, we gave the baby a name that no one knows and I’ll carry it in my heart forever.

I know that we’ll be the proud parents when Leo starts school in a couple of years, it will be an utterly scary time for us – more so than other parents but we’ll do it and we’ll be posting the pictures just like every other parent. We’ll cry, I’ll be tortured not being with him all the time but he has to grow and become whatever and whoever he wants to become and we’re not going to put anything in the way to stop that.

Enjoy taking your photos and showing your precious treasures to the world, you should be so proud, you made those little people.

But,

If you have a friend or acquaintance that you know has lost a baby, child, pregnancy and they should be overcoming a huge milestone like starting school this week, drop them a text, let them know that you’re thinking of them.

Even if they do seem strong on the outside, they’re not. Trust me xxx

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Day 1 Potty TrainingΒ 

Today we started to potty train … we didn’t have a clue what to expect. We’ve waited until Leo’s shown all the signs, waited until we have a few days between us to ensure that we can stay at home through these first few days and stocked up on even more baby wipes than usual. 

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Lessons we have learnt in just the first day πŸ˜‚

1) You need far more underpants than you could ever anticipate (cue last minute trip to the supermarket) 

2) Daddy needs to learn not to tickle Leo and make him laugh during this process (wet floor incident) 

3) Don’t buy a variation of cartoon characters on underpants because when you put one on – they want another character on within minutes (Totally went wrong mixing paw patrol with diggers and monsters and animals) 

4) Don’t underestimate your child actually liking sitting on the potty – this afternoon must have resulted in at least 15 sessions on the potty just because he discovered he got to pull his underpants up and down if he sat there … resulting in absolutely nothing in the potty at all. πŸ™ˆ

All in all, a pretty successful day ending in Leo realising that he knows when he’s going to need a wee and rushing for the potty… oh and an underpant wash cycle …


Day 2 … here we come πŸ˜€

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