There are many things that I struggle with dealing with the loss of my children, in particular Millie. With the baby that we miscarried, I don’t seem to have the same struggles, I have different
There are many things that I struggle with dealing with the loss of my children, in particular Millie. With the baby that we miscarried, I don’t seem to have the same struggles, I have different struggles, like never knowing what they would even look like when they were born or seeing what colour eyes they would have.
I think maybe this is because we didn’t know whether the baby was a boy or girl. We gave the baby a unisex name because of this and it still breaks my heart when I think of our loss with this baby. Don’t get me wrong, I know that all types of baby/pregnancy loss are horrendous because you start to plan your baby’s future as soon as you see that positive line but for me with Millie it’s different because she had been with us here for 9 months and one of the biggest struggles that I have is not seeing her grow up.
Now I know that seems a really obvious thing to say but it’s the little things that many people take for granted when you have children.
Would she like having plaits in her hair?
What would her voice sound like?
How tall would she be?
Would she like wearing dresses or be a total Tomboy living in jeans and getting covered on dirt like I was?
Would she have her daddy’s smile or would she sleep the same way he does?
Would she like going to the football with him at the weekends?
This seems to hit me the most when it’s around her birthday and not long after her birthday this year, my mum passed me some photos.
Many of them made me laugh, photos of her on her wedding day, of my Auntie (yes, you Auntie Linz 😀) as a very young girl but then I came across some of me when I was small. What was odd though, is that these random photos that my mum had brought over were of me when I was 6, the same age that Millie would have been this year.
My mum hadn’t even looked on the back of the photos and seen the age, she’d just picked a few up to show me …
Strange isn’t it that this is the one I saw?
Do your children look like you or have the same mannerisms? I would love to know what you have in common, it’s such a beautiful thing that our children look like us and often act like us.
If like us, you have angels, what is it that you imagine them to be like?
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