Baby loss, pregnancy loss, child loss.
Let’s not talk about it.
Society says so.
Society calls for it.
It makes you uncomfortable.
It makes you scared.
It makes you …
Oh wait, hang on a second… it’s not about you.
It’s about your friend who is broken hearted as she puts the clothes away for the baby she longed for who’s heart has just stopped beating.
It’s about your brother that has just watched his wife/girlfriend curled up on the floor in the bathroom or keeled over the toilet feeling the life of their child slip from her and he’s confused and struggling because there is nothing he can do to take this pain away from her.
It’s about the new mum who is leaving hospital whilst her milk is coming in but who has had to leave her baby behind in the morgue.
It’s about your son who’s packing away the unused cot and pram that he saw his unborn child in, his future taken away from him in a split second.
It’s not about you, it’s about them.
Let them talk. Let them cry. Allow them to feel that they are not alone. Tell them that you are there for them. Listen to them. Let them sleep on you. Let them curl up and be where they need to be.
Remember their loss.
Remember their child’s birthday.
Remember their pregnancy due date.
Remember their loss date.
Remember that they will never forgot.
A baby is a baby no matter how far along in pregnancy that they may have survived.
These babies have a Mum and Dad and they’ll always be a Mum & Dad and they will never ever forget.
I will always be a mum of four, it doesn’t matter that you will only see two of my children holding my hands whilst crossing the street.
You cannot see them, but I have an angel on each shoulder watching over us. One is my Millie, my daughter on one shoulder whom we lost when she was 9 months old and on my other shoulder sits my unborn child who I miscarried at 12 weeks, a child with a name that only I and Dan know.
Let them feel that they are not alone.
Let’s talk about it.
Tell me about your babies that you’ve lost.
Child loss is an unbearable experience, a situation that you don’t ever want to believe that you could be in. I’ve been their twice in completely different situations, one extreme to the other.
They both hurt. It always will.
Baby Loss Awareness Week
9th-15th October 2017
Text MILL05 £5 to 70070 to support Millie’s Trust on Millie’s 5th anniversary this October.
£5 can be changed from £1 to £10