One Fit Mama

One Fit Mama

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I know that many of the mums reading this will be able to relate to not having the time or energy to exercise.  Some mums are lucky enough to get to the gym 5 times a week but in reality for a mum who has young children, a lack of sleep, no help with the housework and all the cooking to do, it’s hard, it’s really hard.

I recently came across a fitness DVD called “One Fit Mama”, I was intrigued when I read that it featured real mums and wanted to know more.

The DVD has been developed by Sophia Cooper who founded One Fit Mama in 2010 after she herself suffered from Post Natal Depression and as many of you know, there are many studies proving that exercise helps your mental health and I for one I truly believe that exercise does help when you are having a tough time emotionally. Sophia wanted to support mums on their journeys to healthier minds and bodies.

The DVD is suitable from 6 weeks postnatal and is split into sections with a fab warm up section that really gets your heart rate going before you start your main workout. For you main section, you can choose to do one of the following;

  • 6-12 weeks
  • 3-6 months
  • 6 months plus

When I started this DVD, I fell into the first section and I’m now a few weeks into the second section and I really am enjoying it. It will be a few months more before I get into the final section of the DVD but I am sure that I will enjoy it just as much.

Sophia gives a warm and friendly introduction to the DVD and explains what will happen in each section thoroughly.

The great thing about all these sections are that they are only 10 minutes long, so if you only have 10 minutes to spare, you can do the other section later on in the day. The main workout section is split into 3 different levels, which you can move on with throughout your postnatal journey, as you and your baby get stronger.

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There is obviously a warm down section to ensure that you don’t have any unnecessary aches and pains and there is also an optional section that you can do to concentrate on your abs/core that is based on Pilate moves. I really enjoyed that section and I wasn’t actually sure that I was going to because in my pregnancy with Asher, I suffered from Diastasis Recti (split abdominal muscles) which affected my back too, apparently around two thirds of women suffer from this condition especially when they have had more than one child. I was very surprised to see that I didn’t seem to have any discomfort when doing these exercises. I was very pleased with this as it gave me a little more confidence that enabled me try the harder moves in the DVD.

So when did I fit this DVD in with two under threes at home? Many of you know that Leo doesn’t sleep at all during the day and hasn’t done for me for about 18 months, so I knew he was going to be awake but I didn’t know what he was going to be like when doing it, keep reading, that was interesting. Asher does take naps, no longer than about 45 minutes at a time, which gives me just enough time to complete the DVD.

With Asher sleeping, I took on the DVD! With Leo happily amusing himself, I started to enjoy it. You don’t really need any special equipment, you can use an exercise mat if you need to and Sophia does use small dumbbells in some sections, but if you haven’t got these, you can use tins of beans! Leo found this highly amusing and started to copy mummy lifting the tins of beans up and down himself.  It was so cute. As long as he was happy and laughing, this made me feel like I could carry on and not feel as guilty for taking some time to do something that I needed to do for myself.

I really enjoyed following Sophia during the DVD and what made it lovely was the way that she spoke and laughed with the girls doing the DVD with her; it made it feel like they were right there in the living room with you. The best thing about this DVD was that it really was real mums in the DVD, real mums of all different sizes that are at different stages of their post natal journeys.

Sophia is keen to remind you throughout the DVD to ensure that you are following the correct person if you have just had a baby, I think is very helpful to remind mums that they need to take it easy and not worry about aiming too high when they first start the DVD, there’s plenty of time to get to where you want to be, slowly and safely.

I couldn’t stop laughing at Sophia constantly reminding you about your pelvic floor, I think she secretly throws that in to make you laugh so you can be tested on how strong yours is! On a serious note though, it is a good idea to ensure that you are doing these specific exercises on a regular basis, especially when you have had a baby (or three)!

So if you want a real down to earth, feel good front room fitness DVD that makes you work hard and that you can have done all before the baby wakes up, this is the one for you.

The DVD has been released in conjunction with the success of One Fit Mama Fitness Classes where you can take your baby with you, there are lots of locations in the UK. Click here to find out if there is one near you.  I am especially pleased to see that they have made it to Stockport and I am very much looking forward to starting them in March, if you are local to myself and want to take a look at our local Facebook page, you can see it here.

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I have a One Fit Mama DVD to give away, courtesy os One Fit Mama Stockport. All you have to do is head back to my Facebook Page by clicking here and tell me by reading the blog what Leo used to lift up and down that made me laugh whilst I working out.

 And now for the boring stuff…

The competition will run until midday on Saturday 3rd Feb and the winner will be contacted later that day.

  1. The winner will have 72 hours from the announcement to claim the prize or a new winner will be chosen.
  2. The prize is a copy of the One Fit Mama DVD and is not exchangeable for cash.
  3. Open to UK residents aged 16 and over and excluding relatives of @millieleosmum and One Fit Mama employees and their families.
  4. Entries must be received on Facebook
  5. Winner will be notified as an announcement on the Facebook Blog Page for Same Person Different Me and a private message to their Facebook account.

By participating in this competition, entrants confirm that they have read, understood and agree to be bound by these terms and conditions.

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Hi, My name is


My name is Joanne.

And I have mental health problems.

Seems easy that doesn’t it?

It’s not. It’s hard. It’s really hard.

It’s one of the hardest things that I’ve ever had to admit to myself.

That I had problems and I needed help.

That I needed help more than I could ever have imagined.

The trigger of my illness? My daughter suddenly passing so unexpectedly. Things I saw on that day. Things I didn’t want to see. Things I didn’t want to hear. Things that I had no control over. Things that I couldn’t stop. Things I couldn’t change.

Of course I was grieving for my daughter but I thought I was normal. I thought everyone grieved like I was.

Turns out that I wasn’t though.

I was one of the lucky ones. If you can call me that. I didn’t feel lucky after losing our daughter. Although I was lucky. Lucky to get quick access to an amazing NHS psychologist – because if I hadn’t have done, I know that I wouldn’t be here today.

That might sound dramatic. It’s not though, it’s the truth.

My darling husband realised that I wasn’t functioning as I should be. That I wasn’t grieving like he was. That I was different. That something was wrong.

I didn’t want to believe it. I’m glad he made me go to the doctors though. It saved me.

I was diagnosed with

Severe Anxiety

Severe Depression

Severe PTSD

Panic attacks

Complex Grief

So, as you can see. It turns out that I wasn’t just grieving.

It’s roughly 4 years down the line now since my first psychologist session, when I didn’t really say much,I just sat and cried and then got angry. It’s a little different nowadays I talk more, I pour my heart out sometimes. I was there just last week. It’s not an easy fix to deal with mental health problems.

It’s hard work.

Its emotional.

It’s heartbreaking.

It’s torturous.

But as the old saying goes, “it’s good to talk”. It truly is.

Some days I can’t function. I feel like I’m failure as a wife, as a Mum, as friend … as everything.

These illnesses nearly cost us our marriage, nearly cost us the chance of having more children. I could’ve ran away. I wanted Dan to be with someone who could make him happy. Not to be with someone who cried herself to sleep most nights, that woke up and didn’t want to speak to him, that didn’t want to socialise. I wanted to leave so he could be happy. But he loves me more than I could ever have imagined and he stood by me and he’s my rock.

Social media is full of all these fabulous photographs that are photoshopped, edited, filtered – often we only see what people want us to see. They want you to see that their life is perfect and oh so happy.

So here is an unfiltered, unedited, unattractive photograph of what I looked like after a very recent anxiety attack and this is after nearly 5 years of having them. I took this 3 weeks go, not knowing if or when I was going to show it – but today seems right to do so, on World Mental Health Day. There was a trigger for this attack, I’ll talk about it in another blog when I’m ready …

After this attack, I was burnt out for a couple of days. It’s not like this just for a few minutes, the after effects always last a few days and it takes a while to piece me back together – but Dan and Leo always do this for me and help me through it.

So now you’ve read this, I’ve said this before.

Time to text that friend who you might not have heard from in a while, that might have been distant, that might have seemed rude last time that you spoke to them.

They could need that text more than you could imagine tonight. Offer them a brew. It might take them 3 months to take you up on the offer, but they will, when they’re ready. Let them know you’ll wait.

Mental Health does scare people, that’s not a surprise at all.

But the person it scares the most, is the person who is suffering and they might not even know it.

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All I want is mummy & daddy cuddles 

Being a parent is so hard isn’t it? The worst part for me though is when you cannot give anything more than cuddles when your baby is ill. Even though it’s all they probably want, you cannot help but want to do more.  

Leo doesn’t get ill very often, but when he does – he is very much like myself, doesn’t do it by halves and completely shuts down.

Leo seems to have had some kind of 24 hour illness and it’s been so sad for him. He wasn’t himself yesterday morning when I went to work and I came home early when Dan told me that he’d not eaten anything and he’d slept all morning (highly unusual because Leo hasn’t slept in the daytime for a good year unless he falls asleep in the car). 

When I came home all he wanted was cuddles and to fall asleep on us, he kept swapping from mummy to daddy. He wouldn’t eat anything or drink anything; not even his favourite smoothies and then he went and hid himself in the conservatory like this (see pic) ... poor boy just didn’t have the energy to move. 

Even though he had slept most of the day, when bedtime came at 7pm, he was already asleep on me and we had to move him upstairs – thinking he would take a while to settle, we were ready to lie with him for him for a while but instead within 5 minutes he was fast asleep. He was very uncomfortable and fidgety during the night when we checked on him as he was so warm but he then pretty much slept for 14 hours! He must’ve needed his sleep. 

Luckily when he woke up, the first thing he did was ask for a drink. I was so glad of this because he had dry lips and a completely dry nappy because he’d not had much the day before. Within a few minutes, he had drank a full cup and asked for breakfast. He has been much better today, still not quite 100% himself but more like his cheeky self. 

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By 3.30pm, he was asking for a cheese sarnie, I very rarely put photos of Leo up eating but I took this video of him and I wanted to share – refusal to share his food is a pretty good sign that he is on the mend.

He’s still been quite irritable today though, he hasn’t had much patience for anything – more so his toys! He has literally played with every toy that he could find in the living room today … last night the living room floor was pretty clear as he hadn’t played much … this was tonight’s effort – that still needs to be tidied up when I get the energy. (Dan is out working, if he was home everything would already be away nice and straight) 

Leo took until after he was 2 years old to have his first throwing up episode when he was ill and as many of you know I have issues when it comes to things like because how we lost Millie and I had been completely dreading it.I was absolutely petrified when it happened and I couldn’t stop checking on him, I led with him in bed watching him, I was getting up all that night to keep checking on him in his sleep – I truly can say that, that evening was one of my worst with paranoia since Leo was born and that is saying something because I’ve had huge anxiety issues when he was a tiny baby and around the age that we lost Millie. 

Luckily though this time, we haven’t had any of that and I think he’s nearly back on track… we’ll see what tomorrow brings xxx

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Well done Corrie! 

This week I am hearing lots about the storyline involving Steve & Michelle in Coronation Street and their miscarriage. 

Everything I have heard so far has been nothing but praise but due to my own recent miscarriage at the end of November and the fact that it should be my  darling daughter Millie’s 5th birthday tomorrow, I am not in the right frame of mind to watch… but I will. 

I will ensure that I watch the scenes at some point as I do like to see how the media handles and potrays sensitive issues such as these and I think that it is fabulous that they are covering this storyline. Utter respect for Kym Marsh this week as it must have brought some awful memories back for her after her own personal loss many years ago. 

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I really do hope that the media does continue to show these storylines and deal with these taboo issues, because that’s what they are , taboo.

Simon Gregson has already endured the storyline with his depression which he portrayed so well and to tackle another taboo issue so soon after that, well, what a star and he has also spoken out about his own personal pregnancy loss too which I think is amazing for a man to do too. 

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Unfortunately, I know exactly how it feels to have experience of all these issues, child loss, miscarriage and mental health problems and this is why I will carry on talking, carry on making a stand and carry on writing about it. 

Huge hugs to anyone out there who has their own personal experience of baby/child loss.

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World Mental Health Day 

Sometimes, just because someone doesn’t look like they are struggling or suffering doesn’t mean that they aren’t inside. 

Be nice to everyone. You don’t know what is going on with them. 

Unfortunately mental health illnesses aren’t physical, so you can’t see someone suffering … until something happens or they decide to tell you.

We become good at hiding our thoughts.

We become good at hiding our feelings. 

We become good at pretending to be something we aren’t. 

Even from those that we love. 

It’s what we do to get through our day. 

Today, 10th October 2016 is world mental health day and I couldn’t let it pass without writing a little blog this evening.

I’m not scared of talking about what mental health problems I suffer from and I really wish that everyone in the world could talk open and honestly about it, but we can’t or we don’t because it’s considered a taboo subject, one of many that seem to be taboo in our lives. 

I suffer from depression.

I suffer from anxiety.

I suffer from PTSD.

I suffer from panic attacks.

I smile.

I laugh.

I go to the gym.

I go to the cinema.
I cry. 

I curl up in bed hoping it’s all been a horrendous dream. 

I scream. 

I become a recluse and don’t like to spend time with people. 

Like many other people, I go from one extreme to the the other. I cry. I laugh. I smile. I scream. I have a good day. I have a bad day. It’s a constant cycle and although I know that I am out of the worst of what I was to go through, I know that in my heart I will always suffer from these illnesses one way or another. 

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I have triggers. I can be having a good day and then I see a blue flashing light flying down the street and the flashbacks will start and my day will end with me just wanting to go home and go to bed and have the day end. I have other triggers that can make me stand in a street frozen to the spot bawling my eyes out for 10 minutes before getting on with my day again.

What I am trying to say is that when you have these illnesses, you never know what type of day you are going to wake up and have. 

Having made plans with friends, I’ve often felt a complete let down and awful friend when I have had to cancel because I’ve had a breakdown and couldn’t cope with doing whatever we had planned. 

Luckily, my close and real friends completely understand why I have to sometimes drop out of pre-arranged plans or change it for another time because they take the time to understand what I suffer from and remind me that I’m not a bad friend and that changing plans don’t normally matter. 

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But actually making plans nowadays is a complete triumph because 3 years ago when I was in an extremely bad place, I wouldn’t even make plans. And if you are reading this now and you know that you don’t make plans, I hope that you can see your future and I hope that I can help you to realise that one day you will make plans again… even if you have to cancel and rearrange – it doesn’t matter.

No one wants to have a mental health illness, many people never think they will never suffer from this type of illness. 

I certainly didn’t think that I would.

The only problem being is that I had no idea what life had planned to throw in my path, a challenge that I was either going to come out of or one that was going to end my life. Luckily, I was able to access medical help, I worked hard to help myself get through this horrendous time and I have had amazing support from friends and family. I’ve lost many friends on the way that were unable to understand my situation or even that they did not know how to even speak to me. To be honest, just a simple hello would have done some days and many times we didn’t even get that. 


If you suffer from mental health illnesses, talk about it. If you can find the courage deep down inside of you, that we all have – you may just help someone else who is suffering in silence.

If you have a friend who you have thought  of whilst reading this blog. Drop them a text, say hi, tell them that you were thinking of them and you might just make them smile at the end of a bad day. 

Do it now. Text whoever you are thinking of. 




New Ink

So I got some new ink today… I know some people don’t like tattoos but I do and I love adding to my collection … especially ones that mean something 


“A semicolon is used when an author could’ve ended a sentence but chose not to. 

You are the author and the sentence is your life. “


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Christmas Markets – Looking for stall holders

Millie’s Trust have just launched our Christmas Market Event on Weds 30th November at 7pm at Manchester Rugby Club and we are now looking for stall holders.

If you are a local business or know someone that might want a stall, please ask them to email

An apple a day keeps the doctor away?

I’m not quite sure that this rings true for people who have mental health issues, in fact; I am pretty sure that a whole tree full of apples a day would not keep depression at bay.

Paul Lake, ex Manchester City player has recently given a radio interview about the mental health problems that he has suffered with throughout his career. After listening to his great interview, which you can listen to by clicking here, it inspired me to spend a bit of time talking about this issue again. I have previously read  Paul’s autobiography and it’s a very interesting read to see how someone who had so many plans and commitment to his impending football stardom lose all of his football dreams following an injury and a fall into depression, through no fault of his own. That is the key to this piece, most people don’t have mental health problems because they are fault, it can happen to the best of us.

Most of you reading this will know that I had a series of mental health problems following the loss of our daughter Millie. Some of you will be reading this right now and be thinking that all parents who lose a child suffer from mental health problems, in reality that isn’t the case and to be honest, I am glad it isn’t. Due to a series of issues at the time Millie passed away I ended up being diagnosed with severe PTSD, anxiety and depression. These diagnoses were not made easily and I was reluctant for a long time to actually accept that something was wrong with me. My biggest problem being that I refused to talk. Even when I eventually saw a psychologist I reluctantly sat there in her office the first few times and just cried, I could not get the words out. All the words were there, all muddled up and whizzing around my head but I just couldn’t bring myself to physically say them out loud because when I did, to me that meant that I was admitting that I had something wrong with me. I was frightened that when I admitted this, it was going to hang around me for the rest of my life, that it was going to affect my relationships and my career.

Has it? The honest answer. Absolutely not.

I’ve just drawn this to show you what I think my head looked like inside when I was at my worst to try and help you understand a little better …Some days my head still feels like this. 

As Paul Lake mentions in his interview  “when you talk about depression and you deal with depression, it’s a sign of strength – not a weakness” I wish someone had said this to me when I was struggling, maybe I would have started to talk a lot earlier than I did.

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Now on a better day, I think that the inside of my head looks a little like bit like this now  … 

What does this mean? Okay , so as you can see all the muddled up stuff at the front of my head can still be very confusing for me but in comparison to the first drawing you saw, it’s a lot less confusing than it used to be.

Now what happens next is now I can send my “head muddles”, such a technical term 😀 across my brain into the little boxes at the back of my head where they can stay for a little while until I am ready to deal whatever issue it is. By having these boxes constantly in my head and using them daily means that I can function and get on with my daily life much better.

I do apologise for my childlike drawings, I am the world’s worst artist!

I was so angry. I was angry at myself, I was angry at the world, I was angry about what had happened to Millie and I was angry at Dan. Why didn’t he feel like me? Why didn’t he get the horrendous flashbacks and the nightmares where I would wake up and I was choking? Why didn’t he keep seeing the same images over and over again like they had been burnt into my brain? Why wasn’t he the one having panic attacks in public? Why wasn’t he the one that walked out of rooms if a friend brought a young child in?  I didn’t understand any of this. I do now. I understand that Dan was suffering from grief because we had lost our daughter and I understand now that my grief was a lot more complex due to a number of matters – matters that were out of my control.  Things are different now, I am in control.  I can control the power of my black dog , I can turn him back into a puppy. Dan become my rock even more by helping me through my illnesses and I wouldn’t wish any of what I went through in my head on him, I would rather go through my toughest mental health periods again than to see him suffer like I did.

I completely agree with what Paul Lake when he talks about “not recognising the person that you were but not being ashamed of that person” – that person that you look back on has become part of you whether you like it or not. The key is to maintain what you have learnt through this process and to be able to call back on what you have learnt and discovered about yourself on this journey as and when you need to on days in the future when you may be struggling more than usual.

So many people suffer from mental health problems and struggle in private. I hope that by writing this piece and talking about this “taboo” topic that one person will be able to stand up and get help.


Unfortunately, it is extremely hard to access the mental health services through the NHS, in that way, I was one of the lucky ones as I got access very quickly due to my severe symptoms. I genuinely wish that there was more money in this country to allow more people to access these services because I can honestly say that without them, I wouldn’t be here today.

Now if you’ve read anything that I have written previously about mental health then you know what I’m going to say now!

If you know someone that is struggling right now with any mental health problems, please give them a text to say hi, send them an emoticon with a smile on it or ask them if they want to meet for a cup of tea – right now, yes go on, as you’re reading this please – I’ll pause for a few seconds here whilst you do this …… la de dah, la de dah , dum dideee, dum didee – SEND.. great, now I can carry on.

If they don’t today, ask them again in a few days and they might surprise you and say yes and it might just be the day that they really do need that communication and a friend to talk to.

The worst thing that you can do is ignore the problem if you see it and pretend that it’s not happening. It’s not good for the person who is suffering whether that is yourself or someone else.

Look around you at the people you know, I can point out people in my circles that have/are suffering from depression, OCD,PND and panic attacks – all types of mental health illnesses. It’s not as far away from you as you’d like to think.

Mental health should not be a taboo subject in 2016 and it’s a genuine shame that it is.

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